Your first one is one of my dealbreakers as well. Ruins a narrative! Related to it; I severely dislike it when a child is forced to accept an absent/neglectful parents back in their life. Generally the child rebels and narratively this is depicted as a /bad/ thing because the parent figure is trying~~ however, trust is earned not given!

When the straight white male starts learning a new skill/martial arts/magic power and is instantly better (and often the chosen one) than the girl or woman who was initially depicted as better than him. Ugh, the worst.