Oh... weirdly, my first thought was "You do, in fact, like men. Stop stressing."
Which is a very un-2020, un-ally thought to have. But I wasted so much of the late 80s/90s, homophobic/Section 28-ish years wondering why I didn't respond to boys the way my friends do. (The answer is: they were immature assholes, like I thought. I like grown ups.)
I guess the version of it I'd prefer to have thought is "You do in fact like men and women, and both those things are okay. But know that you're really picky, and stop stressing about wny you don't pinball between crushes like other people do. The spectrum of healthy, normal, positive and happy is so much broader than you know yet." Let's pretend it came out that way first time.
Oh, and: get a real summer job when you're 16. I know you have a handy in with your mum's firm for summer cash but that's not a real job. Do the boring hard customer service stuff when it doesn't matter; it will prepare you so much better for the rest of your life.
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Which is a very un-2020, un-ally thought to have. But I wasted so much of the late 80s/90s, homophobic/Section 28-ish years wondering why I didn't respond to boys the way my friends do. (The answer is: they were immature assholes, like I thought. I like grown ups.)
I guess the version of it I'd prefer to have thought is "You do in fact like men and women, and both those things are okay. But know that you're really picky, and stop stressing about wny you don't pinball between crushes like other people do. The spectrum of healthy, normal, positive and happy is so much broader than you know yet." Let's pretend it came out that way first time.
Oh, and: get a real summer job when you're 16. I know you have a handy in with your mum's firm for summer cash but that's not a real job. Do the boring hard customer service stuff when it doesn't matter; it will prepare you so much better for the rest of your life.