Beyond Selidor

Also I don't think it matters what Julian Fellowes wants you to think. I think you can sympathise with Grantham considering he made a huge mistake and faces losing something that's incredibly important to him and his family. Most people have felt like that at some point. Yes, it's his fault, but that probably only makes it hurt more for him, not less - he blames himself. And he knows it's not up to anyone else to save him. I don't think it matters whether or not we think his position/standing/privilege is right or not in order to feel for the character.