Repost of a repost

romen_dreamer reposted this this morning. Her friend nomadicjack was the first to post it. I've copied it in verbatim.

"I've probably written about this before, but man, when's the last time you had a click moment? Here's my latest one:

So I've been reading a collection of essays titled Yes Means Yes: Visions of Female Sexual Power and A World Without Rape. All of the contributions are really good, but for some reason I never made the connection about why it's "yes means yes" rather than the old "no means no" trope. Well, I was reading over in the Feministing Community blog about Ask Amy's victim-blaming and the author laid it out in such a way that it blew my mind:


Dear Amy:

In your response to the young woman who was raped at a frat party you repeated the old saying, “No means no.” This is an outdated model of consent. Women do not exist in a state of perpetual consent to sex, which they must cancel out by saying “no” in order to prevent a man from having sex with them. Consent means an enthusiastic “yes” from both parties, not just a lack a “no.” I hope you will use your column to remind people that yes, and only yes, means yes.


Aha! So remember kids: yes means yes!"


Some of you may know why this means so much to me.

Repost of a repost

romen_dreamer reposted this this morning. Her friend nomadicjack was the first to post it. I've copied it in verbatim.

"I've probably written about this before, but man, when's the last time you had a click moment? Here's my latest one:

So I've been reading a collection of essays titled Yes Means Yes: Visions of Female Sexual Power and A World Without Rape. All of the contributions are really good, but for some reason I never made the connection about why it's "yes means yes" rather than the old "no means no" trope. Well, I was reading over in the Feministing Community blog about Ask Amy's victim-blaming and the author laid it out in such a way that it blew my mind:


Dear Amy:

In your response to the young woman who was raped at a frat party you repeated the old saying, “No means no.” This is an outdated model of consent. Women do not exist in a state of perpetual consent to sex, which they must cancel out by saying “no” in order to prevent a man from having sex with them. Consent means an enthusiastic “yes” from both parties, not just a lack a “no.” I hope you will use your column to remind people that yes, and only yes, means yes.


Aha! So remember kids: yes means yes!"


Some of you may know why this means so much to me.