To know what to say
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dolorosa_12Day 17. Who was the last person you kissed? (If you are still with them now, pick the person before them.) What would they say if they saw you now?
The last person I kissed was my boyfriend M (and that was too long ago!), so I guess that doesn't count for the purposes of this question. The person before that was my ex-boyfriend Alex, and if he saw me now, he'd probably say, 'hello, let's talk about music for the next five hours'.
That's right, I'm still friends with my ex (to the extent that I think of him as 'my friend' and not 'my ex', so those words feel weird to write), as I am with all but one of my exes. I stay in contact with them to various degrees, and it doesn't seem to cause any problems for anyone. To be honest, the way I see it is there was some common ground, whether that was interests or personalities or simply shared history that drew us together in the first place, and that doesn't go away when the relationship ends. That's the way I handle the end of relationships, and it works for me, although I recognise that it doesn't work for everyone, and there are often very good reasons why contact with your ex is the last thing you'd want (that's why I'm in contact with six of my exes but not the other one - yes, I have seven exes like Ramona Flowers, but none of them are evil). But anyway, that's how it is for me.
Day 18. Talk about your extended family. Why do you think they are the way they are?
Day 19. If you could be anywhere in the world, but you had to be there for a certain cause, where would you be and why?
Day 20. Again, pick a song that projects the mood of your week or day.
Day 21. Look back. Why did you choose this challenge? Do you think it says anything about you?
Day 22. How do you think people see you? Be a little negative and a little positive.
Day 23. Explain your life plan for the next month, then the next year, then three years, then five years.
Day 24. Are you more social or independent? Why do you think that is?
Day 25. What do you think it means to be a good parent?
Day 26. Talk about a moment where you were truly happy. What was happening? Who were you with?
Day 27. Is there a friend you are worried about? Why do they have you concerned? Do you think they’ll be okay?
Day 28. Would you rather someone tell you the truth up front but gently, or be lied to to spare your feelings?
Day 29. If you could be doing the same things you do now, only in your own way, how would a normal day in your life go?
Day 30. Look back on this last month and talk about it.
The last person I kissed was my boyfriend M (and that was too long ago!), so I guess that doesn't count for the purposes of this question. The person before that was my ex-boyfriend Alex, and if he saw me now, he'd probably say, 'hello, let's talk about music for the next five hours'.
That's right, I'm still friends with my ex (to the extent that I think of him as 'my friend' and not 'my ex', so those words feel weird to write), as I am with all but one of my exes. I stay in contact with them to various degrees, and it doesn't seem to cause any problems for anyone. To be honest, the way I see it is there was some common ground, whether that was interests or personalities or simply shared history that drew us together in the first place, and that doesn't go away when the relationship ends. That's the way I handle the end of relationships, and it works for me, although I recognise that it doesn't work for everyone, and there are often very good reasons why contact with your ex is the last thing you'd want (that's why I'm in contact with six of my exes but not the other one - yes, I have seven exes like Ramona Flowers, but none of them are evil). But anyway, that's how it is for me.
Day 18. Talk about your extended family. Why do you think they are the way they are?
Day 19. If you could be anywhere in the world, but you had to be there for a certain cause, where would you be and why?
Day 20. Again, pick a song that projects the mood of your week or day.
Day 21. Look back. Why did you choose this challenge? Do you think it says anything about you?
Day 22. How do you think people see you? Be a little negative and a little positive.
Day 23. Explain your life plan for the next month, then the next year, then three years, then five years.
Day 24. Are you more social or independent? Why do you think that is?
Day 25. What do you think it means to be a good parent?
Day 26. Talk about a moment where you were truly happy. What was happening? Who were you with?
Day 27. Is there a friend you are worried about? Why do they have you concerned? Do you think they’ll be okay?
Day 28. Would you rather someone tell you the truth up front but gently, or be lied to to spare your feelings?
Day 29. If you could be doing the same things you do now, only in your own way, how would a normal day in your life go?
Day 30. Look back on this last month and talk about it.
