Friday open thread: recapturing the vibe
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I feel certain that I've used this or something similar as a prompt, but given my current circumstances, I'm going to use it again. This morning I woke up with rolling anxiety which continued throughout the morning. I know what caused it (my bad brain feelings are always situational and it's always very easy to identify the trigger), and that's for me to work on in the longer term, but it took me an abnormally long time to come back to a sense of equilibrium. Hence the prompt:
What small, effective things do you do to improve a bad mood?
Everything I do in these situations falls under three (sometimes overlapping) categories: concrete action, physical movement, physical and/or mental decluttering.
What I did today was break several big work tasks into smaller pieces, and physically write them down in my bullet journal, along with a big life admin task. The act of writing things down with clear deadlines (and then crossing them off when done) is a big way for me to lighten the mental load.
The other surefire trick is one I learnt from my mother, whose solution to all distressing emotions is to go for a walk. If the weather is bad — as it was today — I replace it with yoga. My yoga teacher has a number of classes designed for stress and anxiety, but I find they don't work so well for me, because they have an emphasis on holding undemanding poses for a long period of time, and I need something tricky with which to distract my mind. Therefore, I tend to pick classes that have more of a flow to them, or tricky balancing poses, etc.
Finally, I did a bunch of cleaning and reorganising in the house — just half an hour cleaning the bathrooms, and another fifteen minutes or so reorganising my bedroom drawers — and I felt a million times better.
What about you?
What small, effective things do you do to improve a bad mood?
Everything I do in these situations falls under three (sometimes overlapping) categories: concrete action, physical movement, physical and/or mental decluttering.
What I did today was break several big work tasks into smaller pieces, and physically write them down in my bullet journal, along with a big life admin task. The act of writing things down with clear deadlines (and then crossing them off when done) is a big way for me to lighten the mental load.
The other surefire trick is one I learnt from my mother, whose solution to all distressing emotions is to go for a walk. If the weather is bad — as it was today — I replace it with yoga. My yoga teacher has a number of classes designed for stress and anxiety, but I find they don't work so well for me, because they have an emphasis on holding undemanding poses for a long period of time, and I need something tricky with which to distract my mind. Therefore, I tend to pick classes that have more of a flow to them, or tricky balancing poses, etc.
Finally, I did a bunch of cleaning and reorganising in the house — just half an hour cleaning the bathrooms, and another fifteen minutes or so reorganising my bedroom drawers — and I felt a million times better.
What about you?
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Date: 2025-02-07 05:32 pm (UTC)Looks like I'm like your mother - if it's at all possible, going for a walk while listening to music will lift my mood pretty quickly.
Trying to focus on some 'treat' in the near future can sort of help too.
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Date: 2025-02-07 08:50 pm (UTC)I like all your suggestions though! I especially agree with the physical movement one. I like to go for a walk and when I'm really upset I stop at the playground near my house and swing on the swingset. It's weirdly cathartic. Decluttering also seems promising.
I also like stream of consciousness journaling. I use 750words and I find just ranting and complaining in a place that I have no intention of ever sharing with anyone or rereading can help a little bit.
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Date: 2025-02-08 03:14 pm (UTC)I love the idea of going on the swings: just staying in motion until all thoughts have flown away. Your jounalling technique also sounds very good.
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Date: 2025-02-07 08:58 pm (UTC)It really depends on how bad my mood is and possibly what caused it.
✨ When overwhelmed, writing things down into manageable chunks, while also realising I am one person and can only do so much in a day. (I may have done this over the last few days thanks to feelings of being overwhelmed at work!)
✨ I've started doing a "Have Done List", so I can see how much I do do in moments where I believe I've achieved nothing.
✨ Go for a walk.
✨ If I'm in a particularly bad mood, I take some time to journal. I often find that alleviates some of the anger and heaviness.
✨ And if I'm in a bad, bad mood that won't shift, I try to avoid talking to people for most of the day because I find speaking to others can sometimes add fuel to the fire. That's when I know I need some alone time to decompress a bit and screw my head on straight!
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Date: 2025-02-08 03:17 pm (UTC)The 'Have Done List' is a fabulous idea.
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Date: 2025-02-08 10:25 pm (UTC)Someone on my flist mentioned a "Have Done List" and it's been a lifesaver during those days where I feel deeply unmotivated!
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Date: 2025-02-08 12:26 am (UTC)Have a cup of tea.
Do something useful but not needing any creativity. For me that's working on the Audiofic Archive, posting podfics.
Re-read a favourite fanfic.
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Date: 2025-02-08 03:18 pm (UTC)'Useful but not needing any creativity' is probably why I clean things in these circumstances, I suspect.
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Date: 2025-02-08 12:58 am (UTC)Listing to music I can shout along to gets out a lot of negative energy too.
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Date: 2025-02-08 03:21 pm (UTC)The listening to music technique is a good one, although I tend to do that mainly at work (with headphones, and no singing or shouting along) when I'm annoyed about something work-related. There's something about the idea that I can be angrily listening to angry music, and the people who've annoyed me have no idea about any of this that I find really therapeutic.
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Date: 2025-02-08 09:17 am (UTC)- eat some chocolate
- go for a walk
- make a cup of tea or hot chocolate
- rant at somebody who doesn't mind being ranted at (and after the rant switch to a more pleasant topic)
- re-read something I wrote, or comments on something I wrote, or add some words to something I'm working on
- some form of cleaning/maintenance
I'm actually in a not great mood this morning for various reasons and I've dealt with it by putting on a load of laundry, changing my bedding and airing out my room, and once I've put the load in the washer into the dryer/to hang, I'm going for a combined walk/pharmacy trip.
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Date: 2025-02-08 03:25 pm (UTC)Just reading about this made me feel so calm and relaxed, and I hope it helped for your own bad mood too.
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